After all, if you could come to an agreement, you would have, right? So now it’s time to let a judge tell the other side that you’ve been right all along.
Think again. Not only does the judge not have the opportunity to know the details that got you to the decisions you’re making; common sense isn’t always allowed. Unless there’s a trail of police records **and you’re not part of them**….You may not want an authoritative stranger making life decisions for you.
Remember that in a court setting each party has the opportunity to tell their side of the story- and each story is given equal weight in importance.
“Fair and Equitable” isn’t up to you. It’s up to you to convince a stranger what “fair” in your life should look like. Hey, maybe that’s what you want. Maybe you want someone to tell you what you’re allowed to do; and what the consequence will be if you violate that Order.
But on the off chance that you want to make enforceable life decisions for yourself- Choose Mediation.
Here you can bring your WHOLE STORY and have more than 10 minutes to tell it. Better yet, bring your attorney and let them help you say it right. But in the end- YOU DECIDED.
The best part? You can change your mind…..What??? Life may change in ways you didn’t expect??? That’s right. Change your mind as your needs change and have a say in what you’re obligations should be based on just that.
I’m not a Judge, Commissioner, or Attorney. I’m just one of you. What do I know? Only how it feels to really be there, and have to live with the decisions that were made. When you need an authoritative stranger to let the other side know what’s best- its also being decided for YOU, and you’re just as put in your place as they are. So is Mediation really just giving in? Sure. Giving in to the fact that you are capable of making your own decisions. Maybe that’s not for you.
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I am not an attorney licensed to practice law in any state. Nothing I have said or ever will say is ever legal advice. Ever.